4. Our Effort
Click here and print Exercise 4a, 4b, and 4c "Our Efforts Matters."
How Do We Drive Positive Change?
Can we just sit around and expect good things to happen? In this lesson, we are going to explore how …
Growth is not an Accident.
It takes effort. At our best, we THINK, CARE, & ACT with positive intention and maximize our potential to help drive Positive Change in our home, community, and world.
It takes effort to learn new things. It takes effort to improve our abilities. It takes effort to become more caring. We grow by putting our good intentions into action and developing habits that are on par with our goals.
In life, many things are out of our control.
Things go wrong. We make mistakes. When we encounter challenges, there will be things we can change and things we cannot. How we respond OUTWARDLY reflects our INWARD beliefs and attitudes. So, when things get tough, our effort matters.
When we have a GROWTH mindset, we think:
Challenges are an opportunity to grow.
I can learn from my failures and mistakes.
I can do this!
With determination and hard work, I can learn new things even if things do not turn out the way I hope.
So, we give our best effort…
When have a FIXED mindset, we think:
I’ll never be good at what I am doing.
It’s too hard.
I am not good enough.
If I fail all is wasted.
So, we give our little effort…
We have a Choice
We can choose to have a caring motivation and a growth mindset and maximize our potential to help drive Positive Change. Motivated to make a positive difference, we give our best effort by welcoming challenges, being respectful, seeking opportunities to improve, and accepting feedback.
We can choose to have a fixed mindset or a self-centered motivation and hinder our ability to drive Positive change. Motivated to look important or feel good, we can get frustrated by challenges, avoid trying new things, blame others, reject feedback, or treat ourselves or others disrespectfully.
Therefore, we cannot measure our growth by just looking at OUTWARD assessments like our grades, how many hours we volunteer, how well we do in sports or how much money we make.
TALK ABOUT IT
After watching at least 2 of the SHOW Me videos above, discuss why you think we cannot measure Steph and Ayesha Curry's growth by just looking at OUTWARD assessments like the size of their home, how many hours they volunteer, how well they do in sports, or how much money they make?
How do you think a caring motivation and a growth mindset are enabling them to maximize our potential to help drive Positive Change.
Let's Get Involved
To better understand how our actions affect our growth, let us consider times we are not at our BEST and develop a strategy for realigning how we THINK CARE ACT with our desire to grow. Do Exercise 4a, 4b, and 4c. If you have not done so yet click here and print Exercise 4a, 4b, and 4c "Our Efforts Matters."
In a Small Group
Give each person the option of sharing their responses to Exercise 4c.
Discuss why you think choosing to align how you THINK CARE and ACT with positive intention can improve your situation over time.
Give each person the opportunity to practice making a 3-point apology based on a actual or imaginary situation (see below).
Consider how “Growth is a choice, not an accident." Then give each person the option of sharing what are they are willing to do to this week to improve how they
THINK- Learn-Evaluate CARE- Hope- Aim ACT- Improve-Engage.
What is our Next Best Step?
Something that makes being human extraordinary is our ability to THINK CARE and ACT. Right now, wherever we are, we can choose to …
A 3 Point Apology
When necessary, we can turn our worst self into our better self by acknowledging what we did and asking for forgiveness. Try out this effective three-point apology:
I am sorry (1st point) for ____________ (2nd point). Will you please forgive me? (3rd point).
An example: “I am sorry for being disrespectful and using a harsh, bossy tone of voice. Will you please forgive me?”
As we get involved, creating solutions
to the problems around us, we see our lives have value, and we gain motivation to be a positive contributor. While we will always have a mixed narrative, we can maximize our potential to drive Positive Change by taking the next right step and choosing to THINK CARE ACT with intention.
Today the complexity of problems is being amplified by a global pandemic and socio-political and rapid technology changes. HHH believes that working together to drive Positive Change, hope will rise. So, for such a time as this, Head Heart & Hands has chosen to make its resources accessible on this website. If you or your organization would like to use any of the tools, we want to know. PLEASE honor our efforts and let us know you are using the resources by contacting HHH4good@outlook.com.